The Other Side of Kavindi’s suicide

KAVINDI“Since the Police have found out that Kavindi is not the owner of the mobile in question, there were no porn in the mobile, there were no nude photos or SMS directed to Kavindi, then why isn’t the school issuing a statement about the true owners of the mobile phone or the actual contents of the mobile?”  Dr. Mareena Reffai, the best friend of Mrs. Sandhya Kumari Jayawardene, the mother of Anuththara Kavindi Jayawardene, the 14-year old girl who is said to have hung herself with her school tie on 22nd July 2009

“It is sad to learn from her classmates that a Prefect from her school actually dragged her by her tie upon confronting her for having a mobile phone in her school bag (which did not even belong to her) and taken her to the Section Head’s office and also made her kneel in public”

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Dear All,

I am the best friend of Mrs. Sandhya Kumari Jayawardene, the mother of Anuththara Kavindi Jayawardene, the 14-year old girl who is said to have hung herself with her school tie on 22nd July 2009 . Kavindi’s mother and I are best friends since August 2000 and Kavindi was a dear friend of my daughter, who was two years younger to her. I have known Kavindi quite closely since she was in Montessori with my daughter.

Her father is a professional/graduate Accountant and her mother too was in the accountancy field before she gave up her job upon marriage. Her mother is from Kegalle, an innocent, down-to-earth, virtuous woman who was a devout Buddhist. Kavindi was an only child, extraordinarily beautiful and was very shy. She was a studious girl whose report cards received from school always described her as a “Siyalu Dena Samaga Sahayogayen Kriya Karana, Vineetha, Keekaru, Sisuwiyeki”. Anyone can take a look at her school books and report cards and see if she seems a disturbed or disobedient girl.

Kavindi’s mother was the kind of woman who even went to the extent of having a Bodhi Poojawa for my daughter who was a non-Buddhist, when she was sitting for her 5th Grade Scholarship exam, thinking of someone else’s child as her own.

It is so saddening to hear that Kavindi’s name has been tarnished by the school making her look like a girl who was into porn, boyfriends and similar stuff whereas in actual sense she was a girl who did not even collect pictures of movie stars, cricketers or any such thing that a teenager of today would do but was always getting good grades at school and excelling in studies.

In fact, Kavindi was the pillar of strength to her mother during their family ordeal of Kavindi’s father going through a kidney transplant about two years ago. Athula, her father was not the “STRICT” father as depicted in the media. He in fact would return home and keep Kavindi on his lap and ask her what happened at school or joke with her about things on TV. Even after Kavindi attained age and showed all signs of a beautiful young lady, Athula petted her like a little girl.

She was very close to her mother, and till her death Kavindi’s world and after school activities involved playing with her little cousins next door and helping her mother with housework. She even knew how to cook, something only a handful of 14-year-olds today would know.

She encouraged her mother to do home-gardening and have plenty of vegetables grown in their 15 perch house and land, and loved seeing the produce being consumed. She was never into Facebook, computer games, hip electronic gadgets or any such thing. I was always in and out of their house as Sandhya was one of the few persons (apart from my own Mother) that I would trust to leave my daughter with whenever I had to leave my daughter with someone.

During the past 8 years, my daughter spent most of her holidays at their home where I would drop her off in the mornings and pick her up at evening and stay on for at least 1-2 hours chatting with my best friend. Whenever I called my daughter in between, Kavindi would talk to me too, and relate what they had been playing during the day and tell of their plans for evening play and I would often find Sandhya feeding both my daughter and hers, if I happen to call during lunch time. Kavindi played hide and seek, dolls, imaginary house, Lego and similar games with her mother, my daughter and her little cousins from next door and was innocent and unspoiled and a far cry from what is being told about her now.

It is sad to learn from her classmates that a Prefect from her school actually dragged her by her tie upon confronting her for having a mobile phone in her school bag (which did not even belong to her) and taken her to the Section Head’s office and also made her kneel in public and humiliated her by showing her to others. This fact would now be denied by school authorities for obvious reasons but for a child who has never been reprimanded in her entire life for indiscipline just cannot bear such humiliation, harassment and public embarrassment.

The school authorities should also appoint Counsellors in schools who are qualified enough to handle these kind of situations instead of having Teachers and mere school girls (Prefect Bullies) handling situations involving human emotions.

Even when her body was discovered hanging in the toilet, the teachers or authorities of the school had not even loosened her tie around the neck or given appropriate first aid to revive her.

The only thing this school can do now is to tarnish her good name and make her look like a “bad girl” who committed suicide, thereby deviating the attention of the public to the fact that the girl was suspected, embarrassed in public, emotionally abused and mishandled by Prefects and Teachers who were not capable of understanding emotions of a 14-year old and never thought of repercussions of misjudgement, harshness, cruelty and public humiliation. She had in fact begged that it is okay to tell about the incident to her mother but never to tell her father because he was a kidney patient whom Kavindi always feared would die if he faces sadness.

Kavindi was the type of girl who was so shy that she would even nudge me and her mother in embarrassment if we ever spoke out in public in protest for small injustices such as being over-charged at stores or such similar small incidents and tell “aney randu karanna epa ammey, nikam innako ammey, etc…” and blush in embarrassment. She is the type of girl who encouraged and loved the fact that her mother was among the very few mothers at her school who only wore a simple ‘Osariya’ whenever she had to visit Kavindi’s school. She never even allowed her mother’s Saree blouses to have a deep-cut neckline and would protest against any body part of her mother being shown in public. It is this virtuous charactered Kavindi who today is being portrayed as the girl who would watch porn or pose nude for her boyfriend and allow to be photographed or filmed.

Since the Police have found out that Kavindi is not the owner of the mobile in question, there were no porn in the mobile, there were no nude photos or sms directed to Kavindi, then why isn’t the school issuing a statement about the true owners of the mobile phone or the actual contents of the mobile?

Why isn’t the school ascertaining the fact that the mobile did not belong to Kavindi but to the other three students of the same school/class who had pooled and bought the mobile then slipped it into innocent and shy Kavindi’s school bag when the Prefects came along, checking for mobiles in their classroom?

Why isn’t the school talking about the two girls who subsequent to Kavindi’s hanging body being found tried to commit suicide, one by stabbing herself with a bottle and the other by consuming some toilet detergent, when they realized what they had done to their classmate Kavindi and their guilty conciousness took the better of them?

Today, a majority of Sri Lankans know Kavindi as the “girl who watched porn on her mobile and committed suicide in shame”, or “the girl who had her nude pictures in her mobile”, or “the girl who was mentally ill or depressed”, or “the girl whose parents were too strict” and such ghastly impressions.

At present, my best friend is a woman who hears her only child’s voice echoing around the house, sees her face every where, a broken woman with no hope for the future and a woman who wishes she died with Kavindi. She is a well-read but simple housewife whose world was woven around her only child. She is still that devout Buddhist who forgives the media for tarnishing her precious daughter’s name, forgives the people who did not provide timely first aid to her daughter when they found her hanging, forgives the prefects who manhandled her daughter, forgives the three girls who slipped the phone in Kavindi’s school bag and pushed her to death in shame, but the fact remains, Sandhya’s soul died along with her only child.

My only appeal to you is, despite misleading information by the media and complete silence maintained by the relevant school, to think logically about Kavindi’s name unduly tarnished along with her parents reputation.

Thank you,

Dear All,
I am the best friend of Mrs. Sandhya Kumari Jayawardene, the mother of Anuththara Kavindi Jayawardene, the 14-year old girl who is said to have hung herself with her school tie on 22nd July 2009 . Kavindi’s mother and I are best friends since August 2000 and Kavindi was a dear friend of my daughter, who was two years younger to her. I have known Kavindi quite closely since she was in Montessori with my daughter.
Her father is a professional/graduate Accountant and her mother too was in the accountancy field before she gave up her job upon marriage. Her mother is from Kegalle, an innocent, down-to-earth, virtuous woman who was a devout Buddhist. Kavindi was an only child, extraordinarily beautiful and was very shy. She was a studious girl whose report cards received from school always described her as a “Siyalu Dena Samaga Sahayogayen Kriya Karana, Vineetha, Keekaru, Sisuwiyeki”. Anyone can take a look at her school books and report cards and see if she seems a disturbed or disobedient girl.
Kavindi’s mother was the kind of woman who even went to the extent of having a Bodhi Poojawa for my daughter who was a non-Buddhist, when she was sitting for her 5th Grade Scholarship exam, thinking of someone else’s child as her own.
It is so saddening to hear that Kavindi’s name has been tarnished by the school making her look like a girl who was into porn, boyfriends and similar stuff whereas in actual sense she was a girl who did not even collect pictures of movie stars, cricketers or any such thing that a teenager of today would do but was always getting good grades at school and excelling in studies.
In fact, Kavindi was the pillar of strength to her mother during their family ordeal of Kavindi’s father going through a kidney transplant about two years ago. Athula, her father was not the “STRICT” father as depicted in the media. He in fact would return home and keep Kavindi on his lap and ask her what happened at school or joke with her about things on TV. Even after Kavindi attained age and showed all signs of a beautiful young lady, Athula petted her like a little girl.
She was very close to her mother, and till her death Kavindi’s world and after school activities involved playing with her little cousins next door and helping her mother with housework. She even knew how to cook, something only a handful of 14-year-olds today would know.
She encouraged her mother to do home-gardening and have plenty of vegetables grown in their 15 perch house and land, and loved seeing the produce being consumed. She was never into Facebook, computer games, hip electronic gadgets or any such thing. I was always in and out of their house as Sandhya was one of the few persons (apart from my own Mother) that I would trust to leave my daughter with whenever I had to leave my daughter with someone.
During the past 8 years, my daughter spent most of her holidays at their home where I would drop her off in the mornings and pick her up at evening and stay on for at least 1-2 hours chatting with my best friend. Whenever I called my daughter in between, Kavindi would talk to me too, and relate what they had been playing during the day and tell of their plans for evening play and I would often find Sandhya feeding both my daughter and hers, if I happen to call during lunch time. Kavindi played hide and seek, dolls, imaginary house, Lego and similar games with her mother, my daughter and her little cousins from next door and was innocent and unspoiled and a far cry from what is being told about her now.
It is sad to learn from her classmates that a Prefect from her school actually dragged her by her tie upon confronting her for having a mobile phone in her school bag (which did not even belong to her) and taken her to the Section Head’s office and also made her kneel in public and humiliated her by showing her to others. This fact would now be denied by school authorities for obvious reasons but for a child who has never been reprimanded in her entire life for indiscipline just cannot bear such humiliation, harassment and public embarrassment.
The school authorities should also appoint Counsellors in schools who are qualified enough to handle these kind of situations instead of having Teachers and mere school girls (Prefect Bullies) handling situations involving human emotions.
Even when her body was discovered hanging in the toilet, the teachers or authorities of the school had not even loosened her tie around the neck or given appropriate first aid to revive her.
The only thing this school can do now is to tarnish her good name and make her look like a “bad girl” who committed suicide, thereby deviating the attention of the public to the fact that the girl was suspected, embarrassed in public, emotionally abused and mishandled by Prefects and Teachers who were not capable of understanding emotions of a 14-year old and never thought of repercussions of misjudgement, harshness, cruelty and public humiliation. She had in fact begged that it is okay to tell about the incident to her mother but never to tell her father because he was a kidney patient whom Kavindi always feared would die if he faces sadness.
Kavindi was the type of girl who was so shy that she would even nudge me and her mother in embarrassment if we ever spoke out in public in protest for small injustices such as being over-charged at stores or such similar small incidents and tell “aney randu karanna epa ammey, nikam innako ammey, etc…” and blush in embarrassment. She is the type of girl who encouraged and loved the fact that her mother was among the very few mothers at her school who only wore a simple ‘Osariya’ whenever she had to visit Kavindi’s school. She never even allowed her mother’s Saree blouses to have a deep-cut neckline and would protest against any body part of her mother being shown in public. It is this virtuous charactered Kavindi who today is being portrayed as the girl who would watch porn or pose nude for her boyfriend and allow to be photographed or filmed.
Since the Police have found out that Kavindi is not the owner of the mobile in question, there were no porn in the mobile, there were no nude photos or sms directed to Kavindi, then why isn’t the school issuing a statement about the true owners of the mobile phone or the actual contents of the mobile?
Why isn’t the school ascertaining the fact that the mobile did not belong to Kavindi but to the other three students of the same school/class who had pooled and bought the mobile then slipped it into innocent and shy Kavindi’s school bag when the Prefects came along, checking for mobiles in their classroom?
Why isn’t the school talking about the two girls who subsequent to Kavindi’s hanging body being found tried to commit suicide, one by stabbing herself with a bottle and the other by consuming some toilet detergent, when they realized what they had done to their classmate Kavindi and their guilty conciousness took the better of them?
Today, a majority of Sri Lankans know Kavindi as the “girl who watched porn on her mobile and committed suicide in shame”, or “the girl who had her nude pictures in her mobile”, or “the girl who was mentally ill or depressed”, or “the girl whose parents were too strict” and such ghastly impressions.
At present, my best friend is a woman who hears her only child’s voice echoing around the house, sees her face every where, a broken woman with no hope for the future and a woman who wishes she died with Kavindi. She is a well-read but simple housewife whose world was woven around her only child. She is still that devout Buddhist who forgives the media for tarnishing her precious daughter’s name, forgives the people who did not provide timely first aid to her daughter when they found her hanging, forgives the prefects who manhandled her daughter, forgives the three girls who slipped the phone in Kavindi’s school bag and pushed her to death in shame, but the fact remains, Sandhya’s soul died along with her only child.
My only appeal to you is, despite misleading information by the media and complete silence maintained by the relevant school, to think logically about Kavindi’s name unduly tarnished along with her parents reputation.
Please also pass this on to everyone you know.
Thank you,

Dr. Mareena Reffai

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47 Comments

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  2. “Prefect from her school actually dragged her by her tie….” What do you’ll think about this statement?
    I just felt that this action by the prefect could have sparked her the idea of hanging from her tie later??

  3. Although a part of my heart is crying aloud for justice for what they have done to this little girl (as a father to a girl) to make sure that in the future incidents like this won’t happened to any daughter of this country, another part of my heart is telling me that it is impossible to seek justice for such incident in Sri Lanka…..

    The best we could do is to spread this news so majority would know what happened to this little angel Anuththara.

    • reason of posting this article is to change the attitudes of the people. we haven’t post any article with a heading of “Girl suicide for mobile sex”. thats not good for that girl too. because she is no longer with us. we have to pay honor to her (like we giving to other persons). SEX is not a prohibited things. we need good sex education in college level. sadly word ” Sex” also a prohibited one. how we can develop??

  4. School life.
    It was the greatest we all had.
    We did so many bad things. Well i did.
    We even smoked ****** in the school,
    You should have done at least something bad @ school.
    That doesn’t count as something bad.
    Thats the way you learn to live.
    I don’t say that Kavindi did something bad (none of us don’t know that). But she have a right to do things what ever good or bad. The school prefects, Are they PERFECT? They are like SL Police now days.
    Human is different from one another. From their emotions too. Once a good lecturer of mine said “Human doesn’t take decisions just based on knowledge, experience or based on other people. Human decisions are based on emotions”. Thats why we should know that one thing can effect two people in two ways based on their emotions. It’s very bad if you treat someone without knowing his/her emotions. Because they react based on that. Sometimes right some times wrong. School admins should know that. Even the teachers who said they are equal to god (not all).
    What i like to say is every one should know that everyone has differences and should treated in an appropriate way.(Thats how great people do it)
    Reason for Kavindis lost is our system, culture and our behavior.

  5. Well..so many things have been spoken on this matter so far.. I don’t think we’re heading anywhere coz the “real truth” is not clear to anyone..anywhere..

    Would like to say that her college made a blunder of the whole scenario and they should have acted in a more responsible manner. IF…the prefects and the staff are responsible for her death in whatever the way….then we don’t need to question them….”THEIR HEARTS WILL KNOW THAT”…and I don’t think they can ever sleep peacefully…

    School is paying for their own hasty and irresponsible deeds now…people will have a question mark hanging whenever they think about this college..if they think they handled the issue well to save their name…well..THEY ARE MISTAKEN!!

  6. Is everyone so naive to belive this story??? Are prefects of any school allowed to drag students by their ties? Therefore the girl committed suicide because she was dragged. Let me tell you Madam, if you want to disgrace our school you cannot do that by making false accusations like this. Musaeus College prefects are not allowed to punish students let alone drag them. You are making a disgrace and a joke out of yourself. You are not feeling sorry for kavindya, you just have a personal grudge against the school! If Kavindya can see what you are writing, she will weep for what you are writing. Madam you will never achieve your goal by publishing false facts such as this. Thank you.

    • actually We and the person who written this letter are not trying to slump any school. this is not a problem of your school. but the school authority should take the responsibility of this suicide. if someone suicide inside the college Premises, who are responsible for that? this is not the first thing happened in ur college. we can understand ur feelings. can you understand the feeling of their parents?

      • I agree 100% with TLN. My sister attends this school and even i am a past student of this school. I know for a fact that prefects are NOT allowed to punish students, the maximum punishment they can give is to report to a teacher. AND not even a teacher is allowed to make a student kneel!!! These things are NOT done in this school! The worst punishement given to a student would be to stand outside her own class…

        And LIES like “dragging by the tie” and “kneeling outside” are written and when our gullible public believes everything that they read.. its really sad!

        and this question is to you dzone..
        when a child tells the teacher that she wants to go to the toilet and commits suicide inside the toilet how can you blame the school for that? And what does that tell you about the mentality of that child . No ordinary teenager with a correct state of mind would have the guts to do something like that let alone HANGING YOURSELF WITH A TIE!!! You tell me.. would a normal child do that no matter how afraid they are of their parent?

        and besides.. if the phone was not hers why was she begging the teachers not to tell her parents? isnt it just a matter of explaining that it doesnt belong to her..

        Then what about the teenage boy who has given a statement saying that he is Kavindi s boyfriend and he s the one who gave the phone to her?? !!

        I cant understand why everybody would want to blame the school and not her parents? If they had a good realtionship with their daughter I dont think she would go to the extent of killing herself!

        People have you read what the child s father has to say about this incident? If this is what the mother s “so called best friend” has to say and why is it contradicting with what the childs father has to say?!!!

        And as to the people who has commented on this lame story I would like to tell you all ” Do not believe everything you read! “

      • @ SP – as per u, that prefects are NOT allowed to punish students, the maximum punishment they can give is to report to a teacher but finally ur school allowed a suicide?? both of u are the students of that school. due to that reason, u can see only a one side. that is a metal prob of that girl. thats what u people going to say. but u have that right to express ur view. is this the first thing happened in ur school???

        if anyone suicide, we have to check the co incidents which are influenced to that. if ur prefects and teachers handled it well with the help of ur school counselors, this is not a news for media.

        who are responsible for the activities or incidents in school Premises?? her Parents or school authority. As per the law, persons below 18 or 16 are considering as children. they can’t enter in to any contract?? that is they cant come in to a decision without a help of other. means without influencing. as per law, its very clear, this was happened with an influencing.

        then influence done by whom?? parent or the any person inside the school?? it should be a person inside the school. then who are the persons who can directly involve with this incident?? they are students(normal), prefects and teachers(including all).

        please note the talking incident is “Suicide” but not the mobile sex?? i think now u can understand the responsible persons. this is not a law lesson. so i think this is enough up to now.

      • Hey I wanted to make something clear. First, dont forget the fact that she suicided inside the school. IF a prefect dragged her and IF two girls slipped the phone into her bag, well the know what they have done and will have to face consequences in future.Museaus Is a buddhist school and i am sure they teach the consequences and aftermath of sin. I dont blame you for covering up for your school, i would have done the same if it happed in my school.I DONT BLAME THE SCHOOL ITSELF, but think again.There would have been better ways of handling the situation. Think, what if this happed TO YOU????????????????????

  7. Lot of conflicting accounts are going on. The media reported about the porn in the phone as well as about the prefect dragging the girl.

    TLN, do you know for a fact that the girl was not dragged? Or media is wrong on one or both counts.

    What ever it is we have lost the life of a young girl. We cannot bring her back. But we have to make sure at least the other two girls would be saved from similar fate or humiliation.

    Further I think, we take this cultural thing too far. How many of you have not seen a porn mag before you are 18 (no video phones at our time)? I think almost everybody is guilty of such a sin. So why do you have to make such a big issue when it comes to another person? Was the prefect involved such a saint?

  8. I feel this girl is innocent (as all little young girls in this country) and her school tries to hide their guilty by allowing media to publish anything they want. As a responsible and reputed institution (don’t know whether they have that now) Kavindi’s school shouldn’t shut their mouth up and hide from this. They could have done in a proper way to solve this problem to protect this girl’s and her parent’s reputation. What do they expect from this? Why people can’t react in broad mind on a situation like this? Why the media of this country doesn’t have behavior and responsibility to expose the truth? I think if we don’t take an action right now this will be worsen in the future.

    And this shows us a lesson how far we have to think about our future generation. If this happens again and again what we have to do is not to restrict bringing mobile hone to schools.That will not a perfect solution anyway.As a young I think sex education should be done in a perfect way with everybody’s concern. There is nothing to hide as its a common human need. Further we should not think this is the responsibility of the government as in the past, because the government is appointed by people’s vote.

  9. Some media fellows were very insensitive in this tragedy. I watched the Pandithaya who comments after the ‘Dawase Paththara’ program in the morning on ITN, commenting on this.

    The fellow was accusing the media for not giving the girls name & school (initially the news just mentioned ‘a girl from a Colombo School’), and said if the incident was from a village the name would have been published.

    The fellow must be a childless bugger, who is insensitive to children’s sufferings. Such fellows must be chased away from public appearances on TV.

  10. To SP and TLN.
    Sorry this is about your school.
    Admin is correct about your view.
    According to you Kavindi is another one who spoiled the name of your school.
    But the reality is not that.
    Kavindi is another one we lost due to the fault of many people, and that include people from the school too, who are not well trained to handle student issues.
    Do you know that the Principle and the Admins of the respective school is responsible for what ever thing(anything) happens to a student inside the school premises. Parents (probably yours too) send their children to the school having a trust on the authorities of that school.
    Did you think about this.
    1. Why Kavindi was so afraid about the action that the school authorities going to take on her? she may got to know that what action will take on her.
    2. Prefects @ your school are the most friendliest prefects. is it really true(we know about prefects because we went to the school and some people we know went and goes to the same school) ?
    3. Imagine the same thing happen to your sis who goes to the same school(i never wish such a thing). Who do you blame? your sis, your parents or the school.or some one else.
    4. Does anyone at your school trained to give first aid ? why none of them remove the tie before take her to the hospital knowing that she is not dead ?

    you tell us who to be blamed.

  11. to DZONE
    No this is not the first incident. this is the second. Did you know that the first student was undergoing medication for depression? and one day for no apparent reason she stayed after school and jumped out of the balcony , i know about this cuz i was in school at that time.. and her parents admitted that the child was depressed and that she was going through a rough time. Her parents dont blame the school for that. BUT It has become a problem for ignorant people like yourself, who without knowing what actually happened would want to blame one party.

    How do you prove the authenticity of this particular letter? does a DR. Mareena acually exist?

    What do you mean by “as per us”.. ofcourse we as students of this school are the people who could tell others what exactly happens ( you only know what others tell you right.. ) then what gives you the right to accuse teachers and prefects in our school without knowing the acutal truth!!!???
    and you and i both know that No matter how the teachers or the councellers handle it it ll always be a news for the media because they starve for news like this.

    If you r talking about the legal side of this.. in legal terms ofcourse the school has to take responsibilty. But Thats not what this is about is it?!

    All I am saying is dont blame one party without knowing the truth. Its not fair on the other party. You as the admin of this site should not be so partial. whatever personal grudges you have against certain schools you should not take it out like this.

    • @ senurika
      this is not the first thing and not the second thing too (coz i have a sis in ur school).

      As per you (about the first incident), ” Her parents dont blame the school for that”. may be they blamed. but not a good news like this to the media. also you cant compare the 1st incident(as u mentioned).

      this is the other side of this incident. authenticity should be decided by courts. as like u asking “DR. Mareena acually exist?”, we can ask, is it actually for mobile sex?? im saying this is the reason for name this article as “the Other side”

      if you have a clear cut, why the school authorities haven’t like that??? why they can’t show the porn contents(not to the public but to the relevant persons). according to Police they haven’t found anything like that in her phone(owner of the phone also questionable).

      suiciding can be a emotional thing. but when we talk as per legal terms, this is seems like a influenced suicide due to a factor. “mobile sex” is the given side. and the other side is mentioned in this article (fair to all parties). you too agreeing with me in legal side. kavindi is not with us now. remaining thing is only the legal side. i think u can understand it.

      dear senurika, this article is not to blame any party. again i have to say “this is the other side”. i’m the one who published this article. so i have to answer to the question which are raising from that(article). i have posted this to show the other side. thats why i’m talking behalf of that. thats my responsibility.

      you have the right to talk in ur view. that;s not a problem for me at all. you are taking the given side(other media & school) of the other side(article).

      legally u have to agree with me(already done).

  12. @DZONE

    YOU have a sister going to our school? Well i HIGHLY doubt that..

    you, yourself said the topic is suicide and not mobile sex but yet YOU are the person who is talking about it..

    This same exact letter is been circulated in the web and it is been written by someone called Farah Tennekon. If so.. then who is Marina Reffai? anyone can search online and find out for themselves.
    That was the reason for me to question the authenticity. Before publishing something in your blog .isn t it your responsibility to make sure that you publish the truth?!

    If you are talking about legal terms with me on suicide. Do you know that commiting or even an attempt to commit suicide is a felony by law. you yourself dont have the right to take your own life. thats the legality of that.

    i dont have the time nor the energy to argue with ignorant people who are out here to satisfy a personal grudge.
    So i do not wish to continue talking about this .. i think i proved my point.
    All i AM saying is DO NOT BELIEVE everything that you read. like this letter says there is another side aswell..

    • @senurika

      Come on im not the person who talking about mobile sex. i’m the one who trying to say this is not due to mobile sex. that’s why you all have this prob.

      Farah or Marina??? I think the thing is better than the name. sometimes it can be a try the people like you to say “this is an lie. name also questionable”. As you saying, i can say too. also note i’m 100% responsible for the any article which pub. in this blog. included things can be questionable. that’s why you are commenting. thats the democracy.

      yes. in legal teams commiting or even an attempt to commit suicide is a felony by law. but the case is senurika, person already suicided. who can we get an action against her? that’s why we are talking about the influenced things or people. correct?

      i don’t have a personal prob with u(correct ne?). you are a valuable viewers of this blog. also you are a logical comment maker. but it can be correct or wrong. thats up to views.

      other viewers – when you read a publish article in this blog, please read the comments as well. then you can understand the reality about it. author may be correct or wrong. thats his view. commenting is up to you and its you view.

      anyway senurika, keep in touch with us. you are a valuable entity for DZONE. thanks

  13. Dr. Mareena Reffai is trying to praise her baby sitter perhaps for her selfish gains. This statement is not to insult the mother of Kavindi in any way. Suicide and attempted suicide are sins in all major religions, punishable offense under governing law in most countries in the world and medically considered as a psychological condition needing treatment.

    The school should not issue statement since the case is under investigation by the authorities.

    • @ sarath

      yes. in legal teams commiting or even an attempt to commit suicide is a felony by law. but the case is senurika, person already suicided. who can we get an action against her? that’s why we are talking about the influenced things or people.

      let see what will happen & whats saying in courts??

  14. this is PATHETIC! someone kills themselves over a cellphone and you are blaming the school and the prefects! if Anuththara Kavindi, couldnt take a little schoding from prefects then it was just a matter of time before she killed herself anyway… she cant face the real world..

    • why don’t u think about the other side?? is it a reason for a suicide? teachers should learn the way of problem escalating after this. may be from children. most of you are 18+. but this is a decision of 14 year girl. think again !! try to understand it from their mind level

  15. Teachers and Prefects: Anuththara Kavindi,
    please don’t bring a phone to school. thats against the rules. do you understand?
    Anuththara Kavindi: NO. I’m going to do it!
    Teachers and prefects: we will have to punish you now.
    Anuththara Kavindi: OK THEN I WILL KILL MYSELF!!!

    The rest of the world: oh no.. poor girl.. what a tragedy!!!

  16. I read a email ciculated on this issu it might be the most possible reason for her to committing sucide. accoridng to that article she had a boy friend and he is the one who gave that mobile and there were some pictures/clips of her and her boy friends (might b nude) that she doesn’t want to let others know specially to her dad who is very strict.. and now teachers may b don’t want to talk about it b coz they think it could tarnish anuththara…… so they have to take all blame…. possibly it could have happened like that.. (but they why 2 other girl tried to commit sucide?????????? still thinking………)

  17. @ jobless Dzone – Kill you without killing means “Nomara Maranawa”. if like you can use a better word 😀

    wish you to find a job asap. anyway don’t use it in your initials. may be a disqualification for you.

  18. I have been reading both sides of the story. After all this is what I see as the truth “The girl is innocent. School made a false story to escape from being accused”

    Simply think logically –

    * The phone is not hers, if it was her phone then why other two girls tried to kill themselves?

    * If Kavindi had guts to keep porn stuff and send her nude pictures to her boy friend, then she definitely should have guts to take a little blame/advice(as the school says) from the prefects and teachers. That proves this girls innocence. She has never done such a thing. That’s why she couldn’t take the blame. If she was a spoiled child then why she cares so much? The spoiled children know how to handle situations like these. Most importantly it proves that the blame was not “little” at all. If it was a gentle advice then why she commits suicide?

    * From school’s side it is pretty natural that they try to accuse the girl without admitting their fault. They simply can’t admit the fault because it will spoil entire school reputation. This is the nature with all Schools, Hospitals and every firm. No wonder it is obvious.

    * There is a huge probability for a prefect to act like this. Because when they get the prefect badge they get “Power”. This certainly make them bully minded and proud. Of course it is their pride but the bad thing is some of them tend to abuse the power they got. They think that they rule the school and they have all the rights to control others. So incidents like these are not rare. Even if the school has advised them to not to punish others, they tend to do it because it is the nature of human minds when they got certain powers(look at our ministers. If they behave like that then what about mere school prefects??).

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